Well...let me just start of by saying that adultery is sick,
gross, mean, cruel...I'm a writer...I could go on for days with such adjectives to describe it. I think that there is
never a time for adultery. The only way that someone can do that and not be at fault is if they were raped and that's
even more sickening to think of. It shouldn't be done and that's that. I know that I'm not giving you much here,
but that's pretty much it...God says it's wrong, end of story.
I once went to a church where a man committed adultery with
a divorced woman who was also in our church. He had a wonderful wife and they had a young son who was about five at
the time. I will never forget the pain on the woman's face when the church found out (it was a small church of about
4-5 families at the time so word got around fast). When people would ask her how she and her son were doing, she would
say that she loved her husband and that if he ever came back to her, she would welcome him with open arms. She kicked
him out of the house while he was committing adultery because she didn't want her son to be affected by it. That man
came back later on...he stood before the church and apologized to everyone. I remember his wife sitting in front of
us crying because she was so heartbroken that he had done wrong, yet was so happy that he was confessing his wrong
doing and coming back to her.
I have a friend right now whose father has a girlfriend that
isn't his mother. Try having a good Christmas with your parents fighting in the next room. That'll bless you...big
time.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is this: If you have
a spouse that is committing or who has committed adultery, you may have to do like my friend did and kick them out of
your home to protect your children...by all means, do that. I know that that may seem like you're not loving that person,
but you need to do it if there are kids involved. Most of all, love them back to Jesus...while you're doing that, pray
for them. Pray for them all the time. Prayer may be the only thing that can keep you going and it will be hard
to forgive at times, but prayer helps. God will honor you for just staying at home, praying, and waiting.
If you are someone who is committing adultery or who has
already committed it, then please...stop. You're hurting the ones you claim to love. It's not good for the person
you are/were with either. There will be a lot of forgiveness and asking for forgiveness involved in your going back
to your spouse and apologizing, but it needs to be done. Go do it...
